Going Through A Divorce: How To Protect Your Children

Posted on: 12 December 2014


Getting a divorce is something a person hopes they never have to go through, but the unfortunate reality remains that 41-50% of first-time marriages in America sadly end up this way. People who have children especially can find divorce a difficult situation to be in, and often worry about their children in the custody of a soon-to-be ex spouse. If this is a situation you are fearing, then know that there are ways you can protect your children even as you endure the hardships of ending your marriage.

Talk to your spouse about custody

If you are worried about your children being left in the full time care of your spouse (or ex-spouse), bring any concerns to their attention. Make sure to write down details of any conversation you have with them concerning care, safety, and monitoring of your children, so you can refer back to your spouse's responses in the event you cannot come to an agreement and feel you must take your custody issues to court.

Directly address specific concerns you have with the other parent:

  • child care while they are at work
  • how they will afford food, clothing, etc
  • specific health needs of your children
  • concerns about guns, drugs, or alcohol in the other parent's home

In staying in contact with the other parent as you go through your divorce regarding your children, you both get the opportunity to address any issues you may have, and you have all verbal evidence you need to take to court if you feel your children are potentially in danger.

Hire a child custody investigator

As you go through the turmoil of your divorce, you may find that you have to share your children with your spouse until child custody stipulations are finalized. If you are fighting for full custody (with or without visitations) and you worry about the care of your children when they are away from you, hiring a child custody investigator can help ease your mind.

What a child custody investigation entails is video recording your children while they are in the care of your spouse to check for signs of neglect, abuse, or questionable care. Any evidence that is found can be brought to court to help solidify your case for full custody against your spouse.

A child custody investigation can also assist you if child custody has already been established and you are fighting for more controlled custody in your favor.

No matter what happens with you and your spouse in your divorce, your children are going to be your main concern. Fight now to protect your children using the resources available to you, and you can help ensure that your children get into the custody of the parent who can benefit them the most.